Welcome to the “Help Me Date Club”!


Love is Divine, no question!

Love Rules, no question!

We all want love, no question!

How do you get love?  Ahhh, THAT  is the question!

Here is the place where you can find answers to your most perplexing questions about love, and you can interact with real people who will listen to you and respond!

Whether you are new on the dating scene, been here awhile, or are returning after a long absence, you already know how challenging your dating life can be!

That is where the “Help Me Date Club” comes in.  Here is a forum for you to figure things out, get dating advice, find out what is really going on in your love relationships, and share your own experiences with others!  We have a team of contributors waiting to help you, too.  We will start with me!

Perfect Silver Sheila with Clip

I am Sheila Van Houten, and I have been helping people find their way in an increasingly complex world since 1979.  That is when I started my own coaching business, right in the midst of a major recession!  I am still standing with no intentions of retiring.  I am having too much fun for that!

Part of my coaching has always had to do with love relationships.  I coached my first person into getting the love of her life when we were both 15!  Those two got married right out of high school, had a family, and are still going strong!  Today, as an international dating consultant, I have seen everything about love, dating, and relationships!

I know that the best place to meet a potential romantic partner is in a grocery store!

I also know that if someone doesn’t call you, “leave them alone, and they’ll come home, wagging their tails behind them”!  Can you do it?  Can you leave them alone?  Very few can, in my experience!  Try it out and let me know what happens!

I have co-authored with Tonja Waring a wonderful book available on amazon.com called “Manifesting Romance:  Happily Ever Laughter”.  It is enjoying five-star reviews.  It is an eye opener for those of you struggling in the dating game!  Just search Sheila Van Houten on Amazon, and all of my books will come up.


Let’s get this blog rolling!  There are two ways to go about this:

You may fill out the contact form below, AND you may join my “Help Me Date” Group on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/groups/1940406092896531/?source=create_flow.

You may use the comment space to rant and rave, to share an experience, or to ask a specific question.  

Note:  If your form is showing my name and email, just back space it out and put yours in.  (Don’t know why it shows up there!)  No need for your name or email UNLESS you would like a direct response from me or one of our dating advisors.

While you are here, please check out the rest of my blog!  Just scroll back up to the top, look to your right, and you will find eye-opening, life-changing information that most people do not know!

For instance, the “Start Right Here” page shows you 8 life-changing gifts I have for you, just for starters!  I LOVE to help people succeed!  Always have!  It’s part of my mission, and I am passionate about it!

Thank you for visiting HelpMeDate.Club today!  I look forward to hearing from you!  Always remember:  YOU are STELLAR!

Below my “Stellar” painting you see here, you will find shared experiences from real people in the Help Me Date Club.  I hope you will join in with your comments!

Soul Flight

From Julianne:  Why is it that just when I think a relationship is starting to go somewhere, all of a sudden, he plays a disappearing act?  I can’t think of a thing I did to cause this.  I thought we were having a great, deepening connection.  What’s the story?  I really have feelings for this guy!

Our response: 

Nine times out of ten, the disappearing act is the result of stark FEAR, whether they know it or not!  The only cure for fear is to have enough positive experiences to allay that fear, and the only way to do THAT is by experiencing the relationship.  Catch 22?  It seems so.  Do not put your life on hold.  You truly cannot push the river.  Apply the rule, “Leave them alone, and they’ll come home, wagging their tails behind them”.  Get very busy with your own life.  Pull your focus off of him.  Do not make contact, do not engage in sad thoughts.  That is the quickest way to regain his attention.  He begins to wonder, “Where did she go??”.  Then he decides to find out.  If that doesn’t ever happen, you are way better off.   His loss.  You have not wasted any time waiting around anyway.

What do you think?  We welcome all responses!  This is a dating club, and you are invited to engage with us.

MY Perfect Amythyst

One of our anonymous members had this to say:  I have a great deal of trouble attracting the kind of man I want by traditional means, so I have decided to allow things to happen organically.

Our response:  Organic as good!  A lot of organic connections get made at the grocery store, so choose a good one, and keep your eyes open!  Just make sure you have declared your intentions to yourself so that God and all the angels know exactly what you want!

What do you think?  Have you tried the organic approach?  It sure worked for me!  My beloved husband showed up right in my back yard over 30 years ago! 



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